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Mumblings and Musings December 16th 2015

Hi! Welcome to my newsletter where I muse (and sometimes mumble at bit) about the world around us. I'm so glad to be connecting with you in this way.
With all my love,

Denise Linn


The Bully, the Blood... and Something Curious

I got a call from someone that I hadn't heard from in decades. In the course of the conversation she said, "Do you remember Kathy? I ran into her. She's working as a secretary at a car dealership. You wouldn't recognize her. She gained a tremendous amount of weight, and she must have some kind of hair condition, as her hair is so thin that you can see her scalp."

As she continued to chat, her words catapulted me back to my childhood memories of Kathy. I was nine years old and we had just moved to yet another town... and once again I was the awkward new kid. During my first week of school, a girl marched up to me on the playground. She was blonde with upturned curls that bounced as she walked. She wore a crisp, plaid skirt and an ironed, bright white shirt. Even though I had only been there a few days, she seemed to be the most popular girl in our class. In tow behind her were five other girls who made a semi-circle around me.

Kathy stood in front of me, scanned me from my head to my feet and back again, then jutted out her lower jaw and demanded, "Do you think that you are pretty?"

I looked down at the ground and shyly replied, "No, I don't. I know that I'm not pretty."

Kathy seemed momentarily taken back by my words, but then said, "Well, it's good that you know that you're ugly, because you are. And also, your clothes look like they came from the Salvation Army."

Kathy turned abruptly and stormed off. The girls, tittering with nervous laughter, turned and ran, scrambling to catch up.

I felt frozen to the ground. I was sure that everyone on the playground was staring at me. I looked down at my clothes. They were indeed secondhand. My family didn't have much money, so most of my clothes were from thrift stores or sent by relatives who felt sorry for us. The new clothes we had were purchased at a store called Bargain City. My mom always bought the new clothes really big so that we would grow into them. I usually preferred the secondhand clothes that fit to the new clothes that didn't (and usually I got teased when I wore them).

After that, I tried to avoid Kathy whenever I could, but her teasing was relentless. Mostly she kept telling me how ugly I was. One day in the locker room, Kathy came up to me, and smugly said, "I've decided that we should be blood sisters."

I was shocked by her words. Did the most poplar girl in school want to be friends with me? Did this mean she wouldn't torment me anymore? Did she like me? Surely she wouldn't bully me if I were her sister?

Kathy handed me a large needle and said, "Prick yourself until you get blood, and then I'll do the same. Then we'll mix our blood and we'll be sisters."

Girls in the locker room gathered around us as Kathy handed me the needle. I looked at her and looked at the needle... then grabbed it and thrust it into a finger. A small amount of blood oozed out. Kathy said, "That's not enough, it needs to be more."

With determination, I plunged the needle even deeper and a stream of blood flowed over my finger and into my palm. It hurt. Then I handed Kathy the needle. Suddenly she burst out laughing, "Denise has blood all over her! Uggh! I'd never be your blood sister. You are too ugly!" Some of the girls laughed; others looked at me in a kind of disgust, and a couple of the girls seemed to pity me.

I hid my hand at my side in shame, as I ran to the sink to wash the blood off. Although there were other events, the "blood sister" event was my last vivid memory of Kathy in elementary school; I can still feel the searing humiliation of that moment.

After I got off the phone, I thought about all the times that Kathy had called me ugly and pondered the fact that she later grew up to be morbidly overweight with thinning hair. It occurred to me that perhaps her words were a kind of self-accusation of what was to be. When I thought of other times in my life in which I was seemingly unfairly accused I realized that in the years that followed, almost every one of those individuals seemed to embody what they had accused me of. Curious. The old adage is true: "What someone judges in others is usually a reflection of a quality they possess (but aren't owning)." Knowing this can help in those times when others accuse you unfairly.

So here's my advice... If you feel unfairly judged by someone, mostly likely their judgment says more about them than about you. It's how judgment works. The accuser projects his or her own (unacknowledged) inadequacies onto you, rather than face the truth about themselves. Remembering this makes it easier to be compassionate with those who demean you.

My wish is that every child who is bullied would know this about their tormentors. I wish I did when I was young; it would've made a difference.


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